Hi George,

I think the XamDataTree is a perfect fit for what you are looking for.  For example, it already supports the use of checkboxes next to each item.  It also already includes editing functionality so you can edit the text displayed in the item.  It also already supports drag + drop and includes indicators to let you know where you are dropping the item.  The only thing you would need to do is provide an ItemTemplate which will contain the command buttons you need to display.

Checkboxes:
http://help.infragistics.com/doc/WPF/2015.2/CLR4.0/?page=xamDataTree_xamDataTree_Check_Boxes.html

Editing:
http://help.infragistics.com/doc/WPF/2015.2/CLR4.0/?page=xamDataTree_xamDataTree_Editing.html

Drag and Drop:
http://help.infragistics.com/doc/WPF/2015.2/CLR4.0/?page=xamDataTree_xamDataTree_Drag_and_Drop.html

It is a tad bit more complicated to use than a ListView however.  The XamDataTree uses NodeLayouts in order to define what a certain level in the tree would be.  If all you want to display is flat data (non-hierarchical) then you only need one NodeLayout in order to define the single level.  Here is an example of what your tree might look like:

<ig:XamDataTree ItemsSource="{Binding Path=DataInViewModel}" IsDraggable="True" IsDropTarget="True">
    <ig:XamDataTree.GlobalNodeLayouts>
        <ig:NodeLayout Key="MyRootLayout" TargetTypeName="MyDataItem" DisplayMemberPath="DisplayText" CheckBoxMemberPath="IsChecked"/>
    </ig:XamDataTree.GlobalNodeLayouts>
    
    <ig:XamDataTree.EditingSettings>
        <ig:TreeEditingSettings AllowEditing="True"/>
    </ig:XamDataTree.EditingSettings>
    
    <ig:XamDataTree.CheckBoxSettings>
        <ig:CheckBoxSettings CheckBoxVisibility="Visible"/>
    </ig:XamDataTree.CheckBoxSettings>
</ig:XamDataTree>

I have a single NodeLayout and the TargetTypeName is set to the name of the class that my "DataInViewModel" collection contains.  DisplayMemberPath is set to the property inside MyDataItem that I want the tree to display and CheckBoxMemberPath is set to the property that will track the checkbox.

public class MyDataItem
{
    public string DisplayText {get;set;}
    public bool IsChecked {get;set;}
}

public ObservableCollection<MyDataItem> DataInViewModel {get;set;}

All that's left now is to add your custom ItemTemplate in order to add the command buttons.  The NodeLayout has an ItemTemplate property so this is where your DataTemplate will go.

I attached a sample application which demonstrates this functionality.  Let me know if you have any questions.