Never mind - question gone away.

I am re-wording this so it makes sense.

When editing a row it is not until you move off the row that the row update event fires.

But i want a button in the row that when clicked will fire an event - but only after the row update event.

i.e. I want to have the button there for the user, and it will run SQL, so the row needs to be no longer in edit mode to avoid locking.

Should I use code outside the grid to make focus go to a different object or up a row and down a row etc etc  ?

Can the button in the grid be outside the grid ??? be independant and be like a button sitting next to the grid?