Here's how I did it.

1. Add a ScriptManager.
2. Add an UpdatePanel with a ContentTemplate inside.

UltraWebGrid Settings

3. Inside the ContentTemplate add the UltraWebGrid.
4. Do not set a data source.
5. Add a button column.
6. Wire up the onclickcellbutton event.

WebDialogWindow Settings

7. Below the grid add a WebDialogWindow.
8. Set the Left and Top attributes.
9. Set Modal="true".
10. Set WindowState="hidden".
11. Inside the Header tag, hide the maximize and minimize boxes.

Example: MaximizeBox-Visible="false" MinimizeBox-Visible="false".

12. After the Header add the ContentPane.
13. Inside the ContentPane add a Template.
14. Inside the Template add two textboxes and a button.
15. Double-click the button to wire up the click event.

Code-Behind

16. Create a UltraWebGrid bind method to set up the UltraWebGrid's DataSource and to call the DataBind() method.
17. In the Page_Load event, call that method to bind the UltraWebGrid if the page is not a postback.
18. In the ClickCellButton event, get the information from the table that you will need to use.

Example:
string CutomerID = e.Cell.Row.Cells[1].Value.ToString();
string ContactName = e.Cell.Row.Cells[3].Value.ToString();

19. Show the WebDialogWindow.

Example: WebDialogWindow1.WindowState = Infragistics.Web.UI.LayoutControls.DialogWindowState.Normal;

20. Set the value of the textboxes.

Example:
CustomerIDTextBox.Text = CutomerID;
ContactNameTextBox.Text = ContactName;

21. In the click event of the button on the WebDialogWindow, update the database from the values in the WebDialogWindow.

Example:
string Sql = "UPDATE Customers SET ContactName = '"
+ ContactNameTextBox.Text
+ "' WHERE CustomerID = '"
+ CustomerIDTextBox.Text
+ "'";  

22. Hide the WebDialogWindow.

Example: WebDialogWindow1.WindowState = Infragistics.Web.UI.LayoutControls.DialogWindowState.Hidden;

23. Call the UltraWebGrid bind method you created in step 16.

Your form will not flicker thanks to the update panel, but your data will be refreshed.

This was my first post, how did I do?